Asperger Syndrome is an Autism Spectrum Disorder (or Pervasive Developmental Disorder) characterized by significant difficulties in social interaction along with restricted and repetitive patterns of behaviors and interests. Those with Asperger Syndrome, or AS, may exhibit a lack of empathy for their peers, clumsiness, and atypical use of language, though none of these symptoms are required for a diagnosis.1
The pain of coming to terms with having Asperger's is still very real for me right now. There is a tremendous sense of grief. Grief for all that I suffered through to try to be "normal" and grief for how short of "normal" I always have been. There is also great relief to know that I am not crazy and that not everything can be traced back to an abusive past in the sense that some of what I experience is not choice/emotional but neurons/physical. The greatest challenge I face right now is trying to figure out which is which. This is not easy.
One of the most common side effects of a number of antidepressant medications is loss of sex drive. I could forgive our friends at fine companies such as Eli Lilly, Bristol Meyers Squibb, and Pfizer if dry mouth, irritability, disrupted sleep patterns, loss of appetite, sloth, and social phobia were the sole issues related to the medications I take on a daily basis. However, it is the sex thing I find most challenging.
Anhedonia is the technical term for the inability to experience joy. When people are in the depths of depression, nothing touches them, not the most intensely pleasurable activities, not the most familiar comforts. They are emotionally frozen. In this state, people either have to get professional help or simply wait for weeks or months until the depression lifts by itself; nothing is going to make them feel better.
Schizophrenia is a mental illness which affects one person in every hundred.
Depression is perhaps the most common of all mental health problems, currently felt to affect one in every four adults to some degree. Depression is a problem with mood/feeling in which the mood is described as sad, feeling down in the dumps, being blue, or feeling low. While the depressed mood is present, evidence is also present which reflects the neurochemical or "brain chemistry" aspects of depression with the depressed individual experiencing poor concentration/attention, loss of energy, accelerated thought/worry, sleep/appetite disturbance, and other physical manifestations. When this diagnosis is present, the individual will exhibit at least five of the following symptoms during the depressive periods:
Are you emotionally dependent? You might want to go through this checklist.
____I cannot feel lovable and worthy without another's approval.
____I need a lot of attention from certain people to feel that I am okay.
____I don't trust my own feelings. I need others' to validate my feelings.
____I am afraid of rejection. I isolate, or try to be perfect, or agree with others, or give myself up, or shut down, and/or do many other things to avoid rejection.
____I am afraid to be alone.
____I often feel empty inside.
____I am often anxious around others.
____I am often jealous in my relationships.
____I take others' uncaring behavior toward me personally.
____I get angry when others do what they want to do instead of what I want them to do.
____People have told me that I am too needy.
____I don't know what to do with myself when I'm not around others.
____I'm fine when I'm alone, but I get tense and anxious around others.
____I often find myself blaming others for my feelings - my anger, emptiness, insecurity, anxiety, and so on.
____I believe that my good feelings should come from someone else loving me.
____I believe that my safety and security should come from someone else.
____I can't have fun unless I'm with someone else who knows how to have fun.
____I am often anxious or depressed, guilty or shamed, hurt or angry.
This is certainly not an inclusive list, but you get the idea. You are emotionally dependent when you are not taking full, 100% responsibility for your own feelings - for compassionately nurturing your life feelings of loneliness, helplessness over others, heartache, heartbreak, sorrow and grief, and for not learning about how you are treating yourself and what you are telling yourself that is causing your wounded feelings of anxiety, depression, victim hurt, guilt, shame, anger, jealousy, and so on. You are emotionally dependent when you are not defining your own inner worth, instead making others' approval and attention responsible for your sense of worth.
When you are not taking responsibility for your own feelings and for defining your own worth, then you are dependent upon others to do this for you. This is being a victim of others' choices. This is emotional dependency.
The opposite of emotional dependency is emotional freedom. You attain emotional freedom when you decide to learn how to take 100% responsibility for all your own feelings.
Taking responsibility for your own feelings means:
Being emotionally dependent is a hard way to live. Discover your personal power by learning how to take responsibility for your own feelings and becoming emotionally free.
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