Help, I'm Being Stalked!

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Help, I'm Being Stalked!

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Written by John D. Moore, MS, LPC, CADC

Tuesday, 03 February 2009 02:45

If you think you won't be stalked, think again. According to statistics put out by the National Center for Victims of Crime, 1 out of every 12 women will be stalked during her lifetime and 1 out of 45 men will be stalked during his lifetime. Which begs this question: Why would someone stalk another? To be sure, the answer is complicated, however there is a certain type of stalker that we should all be concerned about. What follows is the definition of an Intimacy Stalker, including a few of the motivational reasons behind their behavior as well as a possible personality type:

The Intimacy Stalker

Reasons Why They Stalk

Believes the victim is an ideal partner.
May believe the victim is in love with them.
Believes that the victim is the only person who can satisfy their desires.

Personality Type & Victim Characteristics

Isolated and shy.
May live alone and lacks other intimate relationship in his/her life.
May suffer from a mental disorder, including a narcissistic personality disorder.
May stalk complete strangers or those who they have just met socially.

Stalking Behaviors

May write inappropriate letters to the victim begging for attention.
May make repeated telephone calls to the victim.
May send unwanted gifts to the victim.
May secretly follow the victim.
May break into victim's email account to monitor discussions with others.
May become threatening or violent if rejected by the victim.

Steps To Proect Yourself From A Stalker

To begin with, if you feel that you are being stalked, take the situation seriously! Don't ignore the person's behavior and assume that it will go away over time - chances are in won't! Here are a few things that you can do to protect yourself:

Consider obtaining a restraining order.
File police reports for harassment and save them.
Destroy all personal paperwork or buy a shredder. Some stalkers have been known to go through their victim's garbage to secure personal information.
Keep a daily diary of harassing behaviors. This may prove useful should you have to go to court.
Tell your friends, co-workers and supervisors of your situation so that they are aware of the threat. You may also want to advise human resources.
Change your telephone number and get a caller ID Box.

Of course, the points suggested above are not intended to act as a complete list. To find out more about stalking and strategies to deal with it, visit http://www.stalkinghelp.org. Remember that intimacy stalkers seek closeness and attention from their victims. Often when they do not receive what they are looking for, they become angry, hurt and possibly violent. Look for the warning signs and be sure to take threats seriously. You don't have to live in fear.

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I have been stalked for 9 years... moved many times and as far as an 8 hour plane trip and he followed.

Cathy Cruise , January 15, 2010

I dont know what to do?????????

I am currently being stalked by a person/persdons whom I think are in a gang or gang related. Im sure my car is bugged and gps my homes and even miniature video cameras are installed. I hate this and have moved 8 timnes in the last few years to avoid it. I thibj this person is very wealthy or powerful and is obsessed with me. I went to the new zealand police but they laughed at me??? I have since tried to brush it off and carry on with life but this idiot pleb just wont leave me alone... Im contemplating suicide and am so fucked up because of it and everyone seems to find it amusing... please help me...

rhys adams , June 17, 2010